閒聊｜你該不該找婚禮、婚紗攝影師？

你該不該找婚禮、婚紗攝影師？
Should you hire a wedding photographer?

這問題想必很少人願意談，尤其是相關從業人員，我認為絕大多數沒人想展開這話題，因為很可能最後結果就是朝『不需要』這種答案發展。

This question is probably not something many people are willing to discuss, especially professionals in the field. I believe the majority would rather not open up this topic because the eventual outcome is likely to lead towards an answer of not needed.

我倒不是不害怕（其實心裡很害怕），只是我認為從根本思考需求不是很基本的事情嗎？什麼時候這種問題變成不用探討不用討論了呢？還記得之前我說過的遇到問題的解決流程嗎？遇到問題、面對問題、解決問題。問題不會因為不討論、不探討就消失不存在，只有拿出勇氣面對，然後找出解決的方法處理，才是最好的方式。

I’m not saying I’m not afraid (in fact, I’m very scared inside), but I believe isn’t understanding needs from a fundamental level a basic thing? When did this question become something that doesn’t need to be explored or discussed?

Remember the problem-solving process I mentioned before? Encounter the problem, face the problem, solve the problem. Problems won’t disappear if we don’t discuss or explore them. Only by having the courage to confront them and finding ways to address them can we achieve the best solution.

先說結論：如果沒有任何想法、主見、意見，就不必、不用、不需要找婚禮、婚紗攝影師。

Simply put, if you have no ideas, opinions, or preferences, there is no need to find a wedding or bridal photographer.

在找攝影師之前沒有任何想法是正常的，這時候是可以去搜尋相關的資訊，我沒有說一定要找攝影師拍攝，現階段要做的是：你要確定你心裡覺得攝影師重不重要，重點在於確定你心裡的想法，而不在於找攝影師這件事。

透過你搜尋的過程，你可以看到各式各樣的攝影師，各種風格的拍攝方式，各種關於婚紗、婚禮的資訊，各種結過婚、拍過婚紗、辦過婚禮的過來人分享經驗。這些過程都是在確定：你自己決定要不要經過這人生的一個階段，你自己決定要不要讓這回憶保留下來，你自己決定要不要讓這過程能順利以外還能順心遂意。

It is normal to have no ideas before looking for a photographer, and this is the time to search for relevant information. I did not say that you must find a photographer to shoot. At this stage, what you need to do is to make sure if you consider a photographer important or not. The focus is on determining your thoughts, not on finding a photographer.

Through your search process, you can see various photographers, different shooting styles, information about wedding gowns and weddings, and learn from those who have experienced getting married, having their wedding photos taken, and planning a wedding.

All these processes are about making decisions: whether you choose to go through this stage in your life, whether you decide to keep these memories, and whether you determine if the process can be smooth and satisfying.

光是你要確定你自己的想法這件事就非常困難也很痛苦，因為選擇是非常、非常的多，是出乎你意料外的多。

（當然，你可以閉起眼睛，舉起你的拇指，桌上擺著你所有選擇，然後拇指指到哪裡就選哪裡也是一種方法）

這時候用刪除方法就會比較容易一點：把你的選擇一個一個拿來做互相比較，不想要的就刪除，直到最後剩下少數甚至一個。

It is very difficult and painful just to figure out your own thoughts because there are so many choices, much more than you expected.

(Of course, you can close your eyes, raise your thumb, have all your options on the table, and choose wherever your thumb points. It is also a method.)

At this point, using the elimination method would be a bit easier: compare your choices one by one, eliminate the unwanted ones until there are only a few or even one left.

最後的結果也有可能是零，也就是覺得根本就不需要攝影師或者結婚、拍婚紗、辦婚禮，恭喜你，脫離苦海了，請繼續朝人生的後半段前進吧。

每個人的選擇都是直得被尊重，只要是這選擇是經過深思熟慮之後作出的決定。就算是不同於大部分人的選擇，就算是選擇不找攝影師拍攝，這很重要嗎？重要性是要由當事人決定，而不是周圍的親朋好友、三姑六婆、七嘴八舌的你一句我一句，幫當事人決定或者情緒勒索讓當事人被迫做出決定。

站在攝影師的立場而言，也只是、也只能給出選擇讓當事人做出決定，而不是幫他們決定，當事者的人生不是攝影師可以決定，也不是攝影師需要決定的。

The final result could also be zero, which means feeling that there is no need for a photographer or getting married, taking wedding photos, or having a wedding. Congratulations, you have escaped the suffering, please continue moving forward to the second half of your life.

Every person’s choice is deserving of respect, as long as it is made after careful consideration. Even if it is different from the majority and even if it means choosing not to hire a photographer, is it important?

The importance should be determined by the individuals themselves, rather than being influenced by the opinions and emotional blackmail of friends, family, and gossipers.

From the perspective of a photographer, I can only provide options for individuals to make their own decisions, rather than making decisions for them. The person’s life is not for the photographer to decide, nor is it something the photographer should decide.

人生要自己決定，因為只有自己能負責。

Life must be decided by oneself, as only oneself is accountable.

如果你真的做出決定，真的願意找攝影師拍攝，接下來也還是另一段痛苦的開始，還是要繼續面臨許多的選擇。這時候，每一個階段都是在探索自己，了解自己，當你清楚地知道自己的需求、自己的想法、自己的喜好、自己的負擔，你再做出選擇的過程就會縮短許多，也會更容易找到你自己認為最理想的那個決定。

If you truly make a decision and are willing to find a photographer to shoot, it will still be the beginning of another painful journey or facing numerous choices.

At this time, every stage is about exploring oneself, understanding oneself. When you are clear about your needs, thoughts, preferences, and burdens, the process of making choices will be much shorter and it will be easier to find the decision that you consider to be the most ideal.

攝影已經發展了許久，從1826年第一張照片的發明之後，不管是拍攝方法、風格、存在介質都一直在改變和進步，選擇自然也就越來越多樣化，把範圍縮小到婚紗、婚禮上，每個攝影師的風格、方式、喜好自然也是不同。

（以前也有在部落格裡說過什麼是攝影風格，可以用一句話說出你認為的攝影風格是什麼意思嗎？這樣的文章可以往前看看部落格，我有用很簡單的方式和想法做一個分享。）

相對來說，每個人喜歡的拍攝風格、方式也不相同，攝影師就是透過他的經驗來實現你的想法，所以要找到你心目中理想的那個人，當然是要花費一點時間、精力。

回過頭來說，沒有任何想法自然就不會有找攝影師、拍攝婚禮、婚紗的這些後續過程，因爲行動是在想法產生之後。換句話說，要是找攝影師拍攝這件事不是自己認為很重要的事情，結局也會朝不可預期的方向發展，有可能好更有可能是不好，跟賭博有兩樣嗎？

（雖然也是有可能你真的認為攝影師很重要，卻還是遇到不對的攝影師，這一點以後我再另外展開話題聊）

Photography has come a long way since the invention of the first photograph in 1826. Over the years, there have been constant changes and improvements in shooting methods, styles, and mediums. As a result, the choices available have become increasingly diverse. When it comes to wedding photography, every photographer has their own unique style, approach, and preferences.

What does the term ‘photography style’ mean to you? I have previously discussed it on my blog, and you can take a look to see my simple way of sharing my thoughts.

Relatively speaking, everyone has different preferences when it comes to shooting style and approach. Photographers use their experience to bring your ideas to life, so it takes a bit of time and effort to find the ideal person in your mind.

Looking back, without any thoughts, there won’t naturally be the subsequent processes of finding a photographer, shooting the wedding, and choosing wedding dresses, because actions occur after thoughts are generated.

In other words, if you hire a photographer for something that you don’t consider important, the outcome could go in an unpredictable direction, possibly good but more likely not good. Is it any different from gambling?

(Although it is possible that you truly believe that photographers are important, but still encounter the wrong photographer, I will discuss this topic separately later.)

總之，不用一定要有從眾的心態，也不是鼓吹不婚不嫁，而是去問問自己的內心，你自己對於找攝影師拍攝你的婚紗、婚禮這件事情，你內心給你的回應是什麼，當然也可以問問你的另一半想法。我在我沒想法的時候，也是會找人聊聊，透過總結別人的想法，歸納出自己的想法。人生不會只有一種道路，就像是攝影也不會只有一種方法，婚紗也不會只有你看過的方式，也可以是你心裡想到的模樣，婚禮的流程當然也是如此。

（最後好像還是回到鼓勵大家要拍婚紗、結婚）

In short, there is no need to have a herd mentality, nor is it advocating for not getting married. Rather, ask yourself what your inner response is to finding a photographer to shoot your wedding dress and wedding. Of course, you can also ask your partner’s opinion.

When I have no thoughts, I still seek someone to chat with and by summarizing their ideas, I am able to form my own thoughts.

Life doesn’t have only one path, just like photography doesn’t have only one method, and wedding dresses don’t have only the ways you’ve seen before. It can also be the image you have in your mind. The same goes for the process of a wedding ceremony.

（It seems that in the end, I still encourage everyone to take wedding photos and get married.）